A top headline news story coming out of Idaho this past week involves the death of Idaho resident Sue Newby. Her husband, Mark Newby committed suicide when the police were closing in on him while investigating the suspicious death. Ada County Sheriff’s deputies had reason to believe the death was not, as reported by Mr. Newby, an accident, in part due to evidence of an affair and a motive of financial gain.
The Idaho Statesman (www.idahostatesman.com) reported:
‘On April 2, Sue Newby told a friend she planned to take a horse ride with her husband and confront him about a suspected affair.
On April 4, she was dead in the bottom of Rocky Canyon north of Eagle.
What happened that day may never be known. Mark D. Newby, 46, killed himself with a gunshot to his head late Wednesday, say Ada County sheriff's deputies who discovered the body when they arrived at his home with a search warrant as they investigated Sue Newby's death.’
Friends and family of Sue were suspicious of the death from the onset, as were several horse enthusiasts who said the details of the “accident” didn’t make sense. They rightfully encouraged law enforcement to dig deeply into this case, and to the credit of the investigators, they did. They quickly developed sufficient probable cause to obtain a search warrant for Newby’s residence.
The point of my writing though is not to dwell on the circumstances which led to Sue Newby’s tragic death, but to offer some occasionally overlooked advice for women in potentially vulnerable situations.
In this case Sue Newby told friends she planned to confront her husband about a suspected affair while the two of them were horseback riding in a remote area; this was not a good idea. She should have confronted him at home or in a public place with just enough privacy for a conversation, not an otherwise unattended act of violence or murder.
In my 21 years with the Los Angeles County Sheriff’s Department, I had the misfortune to see worse-case endings similar to this in many cases. The common denominator was often that the victim placed herself in a vulnerable situation. Linda Sobek was a model who was murdered in 1995 by photographer Charles Rathbun at a remote photo shoot. Rathbun had attempted to rape Sobek before murdering her and reporting her death as an accident. This is one of the more notorious cases of which I am reminded, but there are many others that come to mind. And although these two cases are markedly different, there remains a common denominator of vulnerability.
What should be known to all women, young ladies and even boys is that predators come in all sizes, shapes, social-economical and ethnic classes; they represent all professions (yes, even law enforcement), religious sectors (remember the Catholic priest scandals?) and recreational groups (scouting groups, team sports, etc.). Their prey most often have the common denominator of vulnerability in a variety of ways too many and complex to discuss in this article. The real point is this: Since predators fit so neatly into society before and often after striking out at their prey, it is imperative that we do not allow ourselves or our loved ones to become prey.
The following are a few suggestions in protecting ones self:
If your daughter or girlfriend (or you) is planning to meet someone with whom she has established an internet relationship, a very common occurrence these days, encourage (actually, insist!) her to meet him in a safe and neutral environment. (I say neutral because it is equally important she not reveal her residence to someone she knows nothing about.) Have an exit strategy in the event things do not go as planned, and always tell someone trustworthy where you plan to be and when you expect to be finished.
If your son, daughter, friend or sibling is involved in sports or other recreational activities, don’t assume the “adult” in the situation is trustworthy. Never allow him or her to be alone with the “coach” and remember there is safety in numbers.
If you or your best friend are having trouble in a current relationship and plan to break it off or confront the significant other, do so in the manner previously described for meeting someone for the first time. Also, as in that case, have a simple yet effective exit strategy and be prepared to implement it at the first sign of trouble.
Finally, seriously consider having background checks of strangers you are considering dating or allowing access to your children or loved ones. Remember, these are very different times than generations past when everyone in a community knew everyone else, and seldom did their social circles extend beyond that community. Technology has shrunk our world, and for all of its good, there are plenty of underlying evils.
Sunday, May 11, 2008
Sunday, April 20, 2008
To Catch a Cheater
To Catch a Cheater
Your instincts tell you he’s cheating. Your girlfriends say confront him, follow him, check his phone and email; threaten him with physical violence . . . Okay, skip the violence unless your calendar is open for the next few years. Forget trying to follow him yourself, but do check his cell phone records and email. (Doing your own surveillance is rarely successful and more often tips him to your suspicion.)
It’s really about opportunity. If you narrow your focus to the mostly likely times of opportunity, you’ll be more likely to find the evidence to back up your instincts. Also, if you’ve decided to hire a private investigator, you can save yourself a lot of money by targeting these highly suspicious times of opportunity. Here are some of the more common cover stories of cheaters:
“I have to go out of town on business."
- This is a great opportunity for all the obvious reasons and should certainly be a time you consider deploying surveillance. If that isn’t an option, make notes of this time period and be sure to study phone records when you receive your next bill. Look at calls before, during and after the trip. Check phone numbers on Google; you may be surprised how many phone numbers will show up in a search as they’ve been listed on websites such as Linked In, Manta, etc. Remember, if you are unable to identify the owner of a phone number, a private investigator may still be able to.
“Honey, I’m headed to the gym.”
- This is a great opportunity for one simple reason: he or she can return home showered—meaning their bodies are void of incriminating scents and other evidence without raising a lot of suspicion. They may also feel empowered by being able to look you in the eyes and say they had a great workout; maybe they did!
“I’m working late tonight.”
- We all know the dangers of workplace romances, but the question is whether your significant other is really working late at the office or has he or she slipped off for a little fling? Time it and call an hour later. Is he still in the office? Is he answering his cell phone? If not, is there a legitimate reason why? If you suspect something is going on, this is another great time for surveillance. Other considerations would be monitoring his odometer to see if the miles add up to his commute, or placing a tracking device on his vehicle. Most private investigators can provide this service. Some people have businesses where they can actually have their affair at their place of employment! This is a whole other challenge but depending on the circumstances of your case, a competent investigator should have several suggestions.
“We’re going fishing . . .”
- Hunting, hiking and fishing trips can be a great cover for a weekend with the other man or woman. For one, oftentimes the trip is planned for an area where cell phone service is unavailable. This allows them to turn off the phone and not worry about having to lie to you all weekend. Again, surveillance would be best. Check the odometer and ask plenty of questions. What about photos? Didn’t he take some pictures? Wouldn’t most people have a digital camera in their pack for their prize catch or that beautiful view?
“My girlfriend, Amanda . . .”
- Let me pick on the girls here a bit. I’ve seen more than a couple flings of women where their cover story is simply their girlfriend. If the “Girls Night Out” evenings or weekends are too common, pay attention. The mention of a Tupperware party makes a man’s eyes glaze; what a perfect cover story that could be! If they leave you with the remote, a pizza and plenty of beer, either be suspicious or thankful!
As a final note let me say this: Sometimes your instincts are wrong! I have worked a few cases where after a couple nights of surveillance I’ve been convinced the alleged cheater isn’t that at all. Maybe insecurities are causing false suspicions, or maybe you are unfairly judging your guy by your last guy or other men. Having said that, I’ve found that in those instances, the client thought the knowledge I provided was a worthy investment for their peace of mind. But if you’re going to rely on an investigator’s report and opinion in this regard, make sure you’ve hired a reputable, competent and reliable investigator.
For more information on the services of Idaho Private Investigator Danny R. Smith, please visit his website at: www.drsinvestigations.com
Your instincts tell you he’s cheating. Your girlfriends say confront him, follow him, check his phone and email; threaten him with physical violence . . . Okay, skip the violence unless your calendar is open for the next few years. Forget trying to follow him yourself, but do check his cell phone records and email. (Doing your own surveillance is rarely successful and more often tips him to your suspicion.)
It’s really about opportunity. If you narrow your focus to the mostly likely times of opportunity, you’ll be more likely to find the evidence to back up your instincts. Also, if you’ve decided to hire a private investigator, you can save yourself a lot of money by targeting these highly suspicious times of opportunity. Here are some of the more common cover stories of cheaters:
“I have to go out of town on business."
- This is a great opportunity for all the obvious reasons and should certainly be a time you consider deploying surveillance. If that isn’t an option, make notes of this time period and be sure to study phone records when you receive your next bill. Look at calls before, during and after the trip. Check phone numbers on Google; you may be surprised how many phone numbers will show up in a search as they’ve been listed on websites such as Linked In, Manta, etc. Remember, if you are unable to identify the owner of a phone number, a private investigator may still be able to.
“Honey, I’m headed to the gym.”
- This is a great opportunity for one simple reason: he or she can return home showered—meaning their bodies are void of incriminating scents and other evidence without raising a lot of suspicion. They may also feel empowered by being able to look you in the eyes and say they had a great workout; maybe they did!
“I’m working late tonight.”
- We all know the dangers of workplace romances, but the question is whether your significant other is really working late at the office or has he or she slipped off for a little fling? Time it and call an hour later. Is he still in the office? Is he answering his cell phone? If not, is there a legitimate reason why? If you suspect something is going on, this is another great time for surveillance. Other considerations would be monitoring his odometer to see if the miles add up to his commute, or placing a tracking device on his vehicle. Most private investigators can provide this service. Some people have businesses where they can actually have their affair at their place of employment! This is a whole other challenge but depending on the circumstances of your case, a competent investigator should have several suggestions.
“We’re going fishing . . .”
- Hunting, hiking and fishing trips can be a great cover for a weekend with the other man or woman. For one, oftentimes the trip is planned for an area where cell phone service is unavailable. This allows them to turn off the phone and not worry about having to lie to you all weekend. Again, surveillance would be best. Check the odometer and ask plenty of questions. What about photos? Didn’t he take some pictures? Wouldn’t most people have a digital camera in their pack for their prize catch or that beautiful view?
“My girlfriend, Amanda . . .”
- Let me pick on the girls here a bit. I’ve seen more than a couple flings of women where their cover story is simply their girlfriend. If the “Girls Night Out” evenings or weekends are too common, pay attention. The mention of a Tupperware party makes a man’s eyes glaze; what a perfect cover story that could be! If they leave you with the remote, a pizza and plenty of beer, either be suspicious or thankful!
As a final note let me say this: Sometimes your instincts are wrong! I have worked a few cases where after a couple nights of surveillance I’ve been convinced the alleged cheater isn’t that at all. Maybe insecurities are causing false suspicions, or maybe you are unfairly judging your guy by your last guy or other men. Having said that, I’ve found that in those instances, the client thought the knowledge I provided was a worthy investment for their peace of mind. But if you’re going to rely on an investigator’s report and opinion in this regard, make sure you’ve hired a reputable, competent and reliable investigator.
For more information on the services of Idaho Private Investigator Danny R. Smith, please visit his website at: www.drsinvestigations.com
Saturday, March 1, 2008
Where am I?
Everywhere!
Find more information about my company and private investigation services by visiting my website: http://www.drsinvestigations.com.
You can visit the following pages for particular aspects of my profile:
For a synopsis of my background and a shapshot of my private investigation firm in Idaho, visit my home page.
For testimonies from attorneys, colleagues and other professionals about my integrity, experience and background, visit the testimonial page.
For quick contact information when you are searching for a private investigator in Boise, Idaho, this is where you want to be.
To read articles I have authored about various aspects of private investigation, view this page.
I also have accounts at the following networking locations:
LinkedIn
MySpace
Facebook
Thanks and feel free to leave feedback at any of these locations or on this blog.
Danny R. Smith
DRS Investigations, LLC
Boise, Idaho
www.drsinvestigations.com
Find more information about my company and private investigation services by visiting my website: http://www.drsinvestigations.com.
You can visit the following pages for particular aspects of my profile:
For a synopsis of my background and a shapshot of my private investigation firm in Idaho, visit my home page.
For testimonies from attorneys, colleagues and other professionals about my integrity, experience and background, visit the testimonial page.
For quick contact information when you are searching for a private investigator in Boise, Idaho, this is where you want to be.
To read articles I have authored about various aspects of private investigation, view this page.
I also have accounts at the following networking locations:
MySpace
Thanks and feel free to leave feedback at any of these locations or on this blog.
Danny R. Smith
DRS Investigations, LLC
Boise, Idaho
www.drsinvestigations.com
Friday, February 22, 2008
New Look, New Investigators, New Services!
It's not just the website makeover or the new logo that has people buzzing about DRS Investigations in Idaho . . .
DRS Investigations is proud to announce the addition of a female investigator and a Spanish-speaking investigator to complement our collection of experienced staff. The acquisition of these individuals was crucial to our growth as we strive to keep up with the high demand for our services. It seems the word is out that DRS Investigations is, as recently quoted by a Nampa attorney, "The Real Deal."
Having a Spanish-speaking investigator is an asset in that occasionally we have clients, witnesses, subjects or informants who speak little or no English. In maintaining discretion, it is always better to use an investigator for translation rather than a third-party person who is otherwise unrelated to the case. Our new Spanish-speaking investigator is a young adult male who is trained in surveillance and undercover operations, and is learning many other aspects of private investigation. He is a terrific investigator who is energetic, intelligent and articulate. He brings much more to the table than just his ability to speak Spanish.
Our newly acquired female investigator is an attractive lady perfect for decoy and undercover operations including surveillance and even mystery shopping. Not that her "looks" is all she brings to the table; this particular investigator is a fast-learning, intelligent, articulate individual who is able to handle any task put in front of her. She also happens to be a commercial airplane and private helicopter pilot, talents and experience we are sure to utilize when the case requires special needs.
The acquisition of these individuals has taken DRS Investigations to a new level of professionalism and experience.
In the way of new services, we have acquired equipment used to analyze computer content in order to document unauthorized searches or other inappropriate uses. This is a terrific service for small businesses who need occasional audits of their employees' computer uses, or for those suspicious of their spouse's or children's computer activity.
Also, we recently upgraded our tracking devices to state-of-the-art units. These devices are commonly used for employee investigations (tracking personnel, equipment and merchandise) and domestic surveillance.
DRS Investigations is proud to announce the addition of a female investigator and a Spanish-speaking investigator to complement our collection of experienced staff. The acquisition of these individuals was crucial to our growth as we strive to keep up with the high demand for our services. It seems the word is out that DRS Investigations is, as recently quoted by a Nampa attorney, "The Real Deal."
Having a Spanish-speaking investigator is an asset in that occasionally we have clients, witnesses, subjects or informants who speak little or no English. In maintaining discretion, it is always better to use an investigator for translation rather than a third-party person who is otherwise unrelated to the case. Our new Spanish-speaking investigator is a young adult male who is trained in surveillance and undercover operations, and is learning many other aspects of private investigation. He is a terrific investigator who is energetic, intelligent and articulate. He brings much more to the table than just his ability to speak Spanish.
Our newly acquired female investigator is an attractive lady perfect for decoy and undercover operations including surveillance and even mystery shopping. Not that her "looks" is all she brings to the table; this particular investigator is a fast-learning, intelligent, articulate individual who is able to handle any task put in front of her. She also happens to be a commercial airplane and private helicopter pilot, talents and experience we are sure to utilize when the case requires special needs.
The acquisition of these individuals has taken DRS Investigations to a new level of professionalism and experience.
In the way of new services, we have acquired equipment used to analyze computer content in order to document unauthorized searches or other inappropriate uses. This is a terrific service for small businesses who need occasional audits of their employees' computer uses, or for those suspicious of their spouse's or children's computer activity.
Also, we recently upgraded our tracking devices to state-of-the-art units. These devices are commonly used for employee investigations (tracking personnel, equipment and merchandise) and domestic surveillance.
Friday, February 15, 2008
Cheating Hearts?
Do you suspect your spouse or significant other of cheating? Read this article and you may feel differently about your suspicions; then again, you may decide it’s time to hire a private investigator.
Not long ago I had an out-of-state client who was concerned her boyfriend would cheat on her while working a construction job in Boise. He was due to be in Idaho for about a week, so she retained my services for three days and nights of surveillance. After the second night I told the client she was wasting her money on surveillance.
The subject worked each day and returned to his hotel each evening without stopping along the way. At dinnertime, he departed his room and went to a neighboring diner where he ate a working man’s meal and drank a couple beers before returning to his room. On the second night, when he apparently became restless and decided to cut loose a bit, he went to Walmart and spent an hour in the sporting goods area looking at fishing lures and camping gear; then he returned to his room and stayed in for the night.
I told my client about some of the expected patterns and routines of the unfaithful based on knowledge I’ve accumulated through professional experience as a private investigator. It was clear these did not fit the subject in this case.
First and foremost, the target in this case was somewhat shy or at least private and not at all forward or flirtatious with the women he encountered. The waitress at the diner was an attractive young lady who, like many waitresses, was very friendly. The subject ordered his food and thanked her when it came; that was it.
The other interesting note was everything the subject told the client on the phone was the truth as to his whereabouts and activities—I was there to see it! Oftentimes on these types of cases the client will tell me what the subject has reported and it’s completely different from what I’ve seen with my own eyes; often have video to prove it.
Finally, the client had been concerned her boyfriend would be influenced by his buddy, who, in her opinion, was a definite threat for this activity. Interestingly, the subject seemed to avoid this individual even though they were housed at the same hotel and rode to and from the job site together.
The client ultimately conceded her insecurities might have been unwarranted and the surveillance was discontinued.
The point to the story is that the client in this case clearly had insecurities, as many of us do. Was her decision to hire a private investigator wrong? I think not. If she hadn’t, she would have likely worried the entire week and probably questioned her boyfriend relentlessly when he returned, maybe to the point of harming the relationship.
Not only do I not think she wasted her money, I actually think it was a great investment. If this guy had been the cheating type, he would have been in full swing being out of state and I would have nailed him. At this stage in their relationship there would have been little harm in knowing he was a cheater and moving on. But more importantly, the client was able to set apart the previous relationships which scarred her and understand this one was different; she now had a good guy and she needed to know that.
Not long ago I had an out-of-state client who was concerned her boyfriend would cheat on her while working a construction job in Boise. He was due to be in Idaho for about a week, so she retained my services for three days and nights of surveillance. After the second night I told the client she was wasting her money on surveillance.
The subject worked each day and returned to his hotel each evening without stopping along the way. At dinnertime, he departed his room and went to a neighboring diner where he ate a working man’s meal and drank a couple beers before returning to his room. On the second night, when he apparently became restless and decided to cut loose a bit, he went to Walmart and spent an hour in the sporting goods area looking at fishing lures and camping gear; then he returned to his room and stayed in for the night.
I told my client about some of the expected patterns and routines of the unfaithful based on knowledge I’ve accumulated through professional experience as a private investigator. It was clear these did not fit the subject in this case.
First and foremost, the target in this case was somewhat shy or at least private and not at all forward or flirtatious with the women he encountered. The waitress at the diner was an attractive young lady who, like many waitresses, was very friendly. The subject ordered his food and thanked her when it came; that was it.
The other interesting note was everything the subject told the client on the phone was the truth as to his whereabouts and activities—I was there to see it! Oftentimes on these types of cases the client will tell me what the subject has reported and it’s completely different from what I’ve seen with my own eyes; often have video to prove it.
Finally, the client had been concerned her boyfriend would be influenced by his buddy, who, in her opinion, was a definite threat for this activity. Interestingly, the subject seemed to avoid this individual even though they were housed at the same hotel and rode to and from the job site together.
The client ultimately conceded her insecurities might have been unwarranted and the surveillance was discontinued.
The point to the story is that the client in this case clearly had insecurities, as many of us do. Was her decision to hire a private investigator wrong? I think not. If she hadn’t, she would have likely worried the entire week and probably questioned her boyfriend relentlessly when he returned, maybe to the point of harming the relationship.
Not only do I not think she wasted her money, I actually think it was a great investment. If this guy had been the cheating type, he would have been in full swing being out of state and I would have nailed him. At this stage in their relationship there would have been little harm in knowing he was a cheater and moving on. But more importantly, the client was able to set apart the previous relationships which scarred her and understand this one was different; she now had a good guy and she needed to know that.
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
The Good, The Bad, and The Really Bad . . .
Since beginning my business as a private investigator in Idaho, I have been dumbfounded, amazed, perplexed and disgusted by many of my so-called colleagues in the business. Before I go on, let me say this: In Idaho there is no licensing of private investigators, so here this "profession" has been tainted by many who could never obtain a license in another state, have no business being in the business, and would never pass a background investigation. I know for certain we have convicted felons who own PI businesses here in Idaho; one such individual was just arrested for dealing methamphetamine (he previously served time in prison for manslaughter). We have those who claim prior law enforcement experience yet refuse to provide verifiable information about their alleged experience.
Yesterday a would-be client who had first contacted me, then shopped for a better price, called frantically telling me about the investigator she hired who talked her into providing all of her personal information so he could get into her computer and "crack" the passwords and codes of her boyfriend, whom she expected was cheating on her. She had since noticed he had taken over her computer and was concerned about his intentions. The investigator would not return her calls now and in an email indicated he needed more money to complete his task.
Why do I care? Because I continually receive new clients who have been ripped off by other investigators. So good for me, right? Maybe, to that degree. But I still detest crooks. I always have and in fact, I dedicated more than two decades filling prisons with the same type of people I now know as "colleagues." Not to mention my time is my money and much (uncompensated) time is spent providing those who have been burned with the information they need to protect themselves.
Don't get me wrong, there are some great PI's in Idaho and probably the majority of them are honest, decent people. But to avoid civil litigation, I won't name the good or the bad. The point is there are those who are really bad, but I can't tell you who they are. I hope you find the good ones. Let me give you a few hints:
- Choose investigators with verifiable experience.
- Choose investigators who are open about the idenitities and their backgrounds. Avoid the "cloak and dagger" types; they are often the police or spy wannabes.
- Ask for references of professionals such as attorneys or business owners.
- Interview several and use common sense when hiring an investigator. You wouldn't settle for the cheapest surgeon or lawyer; don't hire a low-budget investigator.
This is the second article I have authored about the subject. I hope it helps you make good choices.
Danny R. Smith
DRS Investigations, Idaho
L.A. Sheriff's Homicide, Ret.
www.drsinvestigations.com
Yesterday a would-be client who had first contacted me, then shopped for a better price, called frantically telling me about the investigator she hired who talked her into providing all of her personal information so he could get into her computer and "crack" the passwords and codes of her boyfriend, whom she expected was cheating on her. She had since noticed he had taken over her computer and was concerned about his intentions. The investigator would not return her calls now and in an email indicated he needed more money to complete his task.
Why do I care? Because I continually receive new clients who have been ripped off by other investigators. So good for me, right? Maybe, to that degree. But I still detest crooks. I always have and in fact, I dedicated more than two decades filling prisons with the same type of people I now know as "colleagues." Not to mention my time is my money and much (uncompensated) time is spent providing those who have been burned with the information they need to protect themselves.
Don't get me wrong, there are some great PI's in Idaho and probably the majority of them are honest, decent people. But to avoid civil litigation, I won't name the good or the bad. The point is there are those who are really bad, but I can't tell you who they are. I hope you find the good ones. Let me give you a few hints:
- Choose investigators with verifiable experience.
- Choose investigators who are open about the idenitities and their backgrounds. Avoid the "cloak and dagger" types; they are often the police or spy wannabes.
- Ask for references of professionals such as attorneys or business owners.
- Interview several and use common sense when hiring an investigator. You wouldn't settle for the cheapest surgeon or lawyer; don't hire a low-budget investigator.
This is the second article I have authored about the subject. I hope it helps you make good choices.
Danny R. Smith
DRS Investigations, Idaho
L.A. Sheriff's Homicide, Ret.
www.drsinvestigations.com
Thursday, October 11, 2007
Love on the Internet
Perhaps today's most popular form of meeting new friends and starting intimate relationships is through the internet, rather it be a dating service or various chat rooms. With such a rising popularity in this trend, I feel compelled to tell a short story and provide a few suggestions that may help you protect yourself from some of the evil and insanity lurking in those dark cyber-corners.
First the story: I recently had a young man as a client who after having a three-year cyber relationship with a "female" we'll call Cindy, he was contacted by a third party "mutual friend" and told Cindy had taken her life; the client was devastated. My investigation quickly revealed Cindy and the mutual friend were one in the same, a young male adult with some mental health issues (this is true, not said to be cruel). The point is "Cindy" wanted to end the friendship with my client but did not know how else to do so with the same immediate results.
My client in this case was emotionally traumatized and even embarrassed by the chain of events and my discovery, but was otherwise unharmed. Others have not been as fortunate; we've all seen the stories or heard about internet relationships ending tragically, sometimes in murder.
If you use the internet for dating or establishing friendships, please use all precautions before exposing yourself to a stranger. People are not always what they represent, and their past is easily erased in cyber forums. Obtain all of the information you can about any such person and have the information verified! This is not difficult for any private investigator and considering the potential hazards, not a bad investment.
A private investigator can conduct a thorough background investigation, verify whether or not your new friend is who he/she claims to be and check for criminal history. A good investigator will also search civil records for divorces or other actions which may reveal some interesting, unrevealed facts about your friend.
At the very least, use common sense and always tell your best friend or someone about this person. If they tell you things don't seem right, listen to them; they are not emotionally involved. And never, ever meet someone without others knowing the details of your rendezvous. Choose a safe place and have an exit strategy that will work even with an overbearing, hostile individual.
For more information please visit my web site at:
http://www.drsinvestigations.com/
By: Danny R. Smith
DRS Investigations, Idaho
L.A. Sheriff's Homicide, Ret.
First the story: I recently had a young man as a client who after having a three-year cyber relationship with a "female" we'll call Cindy, he was contacted by a third party "mutual friend" and told Cindy had taken her life; the client was devastated. My investigation quickly revealed Cindy and the mutual friend were one in the same, a young male adult with some mental health issues (this is true, not said to be cruel). The point is "Cindy" wanted to end the friendship with my client but did not know how else to do so with the same immediate results.
My client in this case was emotionally traumatized and even embarrassed by the chain of events and my discovery, but was otherwise unharmed. Others have not been as fortunate; we've all seen the stories or heard about internet relationships ending tragically, sometimes in murder.
If you use the internet for dating or establishing friendships, please use all precautions before exposing yourself to a stranger. People are not always what they represent, and their past is easily erased in cyber forums. Obtain all of the information you can about any such person and have the information verified! This is not difficult for any private investigator and considering the potential hazards, not a bad investment.
A private investigator can conduct a thorough background investigation, verify whether or not your new friend is who he/she claims to be and check for criminal history. A good investigator will also search civil records for divorces or other actions which may reveal some interesting, unrevealed facts about your friend.
At the very least, use common sense and always tell your best friend or someone about this person. If they tell you things don't seem right, listen to them; they are not emotionally involved. And never, ever meet someone without others knowing the details of your rendezvous. Choose a safe place and have an exit strategy that will work even with an overbearing, hostile individual.
For more information please visit my web site at:
http://www.drsinvestigations.com/
By: Danny R. Smith
DRS Investigations, Idaho
L.A. Sheriff's Homicide, Ret.
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