Love on the Internet

Perhaps today's most popular form of meeting new friends and starting intimate relationships is through the internet, rather it be a dating service or various chat rooms. With such a rising popularity in this trend, I feel compelled to tell a short story and provide a few suggestions that may help you protect yourself from some of the evil and insanity lurking in those dark cyber-corners.

First the story: I recently had a young man as a client who after having a three-year cyber relationship with a "female" we'll call Cindy, he was contacted by a third party "mutual friend" and told Cindy had taken her life; the client was devastated. My investigation quickly revealed Cindy and the mutual friend were one in the same, a young male adult with some mental health issues (this is true, not said to be cruel). The point is "Cindy" wanted to end the friendship with my client but did not know how else to do so with the same immediate results.

My client in this case was emotionally traumatized and even embarrassed by the chain of events and my discovery, but was otherwise unharmed. Others have not been as fortunate; we've all seen the stories or heard about internet relationships ending tragically, sometimes in murder.

If you use the internet for dating or establishing friendships, please use all precautions before exposing yourself to a stranger. People are not always what they represent, and their past is easily erased in cyber forums. Obtain all of the information you can about any such person and have the information verified! This is not difficult for any private investigator and considering the potential hazards, not a bad investment.

A private investigator can conduct a thorough background investigation, verify whether or not your new friend is who he/she claims to be and check for criminal history. A good investigator will also search civil records for divorces or other actions which may reveal some interesting, unrevealed facts about your friend.

At the very least, use common sense and always tell your best friend or someone about this person. If they tell you things don't seem right, listen to them; they are not emotionally involved. And never, ever meet someone without others knowing the details of your rendezvous. Choose a safe place and have an exit strategy that will work even with an overbearing, hostile individual.

For more information please visit my web site at:

http://www.drsinvestigations.com/

By: Danny R. Smith
DRS Investigations, Idaho
L.A. Sheriff's Homicide, Ret.